5. toughness and violence

Mascular, strong, independent, powerful, respected, violent, tough! These are some adjectives that describes "men" from the eyes of men.Why do men try to look bigger and violent? The answer is simple: it is emposed in media! We can see lots of examples for this:
Female bodies were projected as skinny and well-developed since the fashion become.In old times females were a bit more fat and not so skinny; as the technology developed, the expantations of men from women grew bigger so women meet their expectations to survive in fashion and beauty etc. Now models are too skinny - and anorecsic and sick- and they think its the new standart of beauty!
On the other hand while women get thinner and thinner males get bigger and mascular. Not only in real life but toys like action man etc perform the new trend of "masculinity".

All of these examples show us that media emposes some "themes" during the time.What appears in the media not always the truth and the news arent always reliable.For example because media emposes violence as a man thing and it seems normal for a man to make violence so when a women do violence it hits the news as it is something very extraordinary.

To sum up, media interferes a lot to form these themes and affect people, mostly young males who sees TV as a school.

4.Male or female??

There are 2 genders for the beginning of the world- boys and girls. Males have masculine characteristics where as females have feminine.As the cultures developed different tendencies occur.Gays have a bigger part of feminity in them rather than normal men so their behaviour resemble like woman.People can't take it kindly gays and their behaviours that they push gays away from the society, they ignored them-still are- and so gays keep oneselfs to oneselfs and they created their own societies - they created their own bars, festivals, meetings etc. Lesbians on the other hand have both masculine and feminine parts in them.

With the creations of gay things lesbians occur later.They immediately participate gay society so the public named both for lesbians and gays as a full name of -gay! In gays relationships one person of the couple becomes a "man" and the other a "woman". This stratification is only to hoodwink the publis's eye.In cultures there must be woman-man figures in the soicety to prevent the uproar.So because of this public suppression gays stratify themselves.

Holland is the only country that stands for the rights of gays.Marriage, child adoption and other things are legal in there so gays prefer to live in Amsterdam.

I think its wrong to define genders straightly.Some of us may be afraid of the other sex in us.Men often suppresse the feminine parts in them and do everything to put mask of a macho man.Women are too not always comfortable of their masculine parts.They try to hide this to show the outside world that they aren't vulnurable or fragile.

All of these hidings are because this world is the world of the tough,the powerful, the one who could bare every difficulty; but none of these plans can help the person to hide what he/she really is.

But many psychogologists believe that a person is a complex of masculine and feminine parts.So without limiting genders i think we should look this conception of gender as a whole.By this we can be "complete".

3. The woman on the roof

The writer, wrote an unusual story which covers recent problems nowadays too; peeping at women.In the story there are 3 man, workers who works on the roofs or in the basement.When they are fixing the roof, the neighbor woman, starts to sunbathe on her roof.All 3 of man; Harry the older one, Stanley newly married but handsome one, and Tom, who is only 17 ; stare at her like they haven't seen a "half naked woman" (thats what they told her because she wears a red bikini) before.

She is avare of their glances but she ignores them.Although the sun is burning they prefer to work on the roof just to see her.

Stanley nicknamed her as Lady Godiva because she's "naked". Among all 3 of them, Tom peep her the most.-Here the writer refers Tom as "Peeping Tom" - and due to his youth he become obsessed with her.Harry asks their foreman to work at another time -he excused the sun- bacause he was afraid that things would get bigger.

When they decide to leave the roof Tom went to her and tried to talk her. But of course she ignored him, saying if he wanted to see women in bikini why doesn't he go to Lido??

With this story we understand that men can't stand to see a naked woman, and that women could protect themselves.